Just about every couple can recall their first moments of intimacy with their spouse. Whether it was the thrill of first holding hands on a date, or the first “I love you,” couples recognize that the initial—and sometimes awkward—intimate moments of their relationship formed the basis for the more intense intimacy that would come later.
Prayer with a spouse has some similarities to physical intimacy—it requires both partners to be open and vulnerable with the other. Good prayer experiences unite a couple, bring them closer, and provide cushioning for the tough parts of marriage. While physical intimacy is a given in relationships, prayer is not. Teenage boys don’t brag about getting to “second base” in prayer—and few women’s magazines cover a lack of satisfaction in prayer life as well as they do a lack of satisfaction in the bedroom. Couples with years of experience with physical intimacy can feel embarrassed or inadequate at the thought of praying with a spouse. So move over Cosmo, here are some tips to leave him or her really satisfied—with your prayer life.
Go to Mass together, without the kids. If you didn’t begin attending Mass regularly until you started your family, you may have missed out on some important “premarital” or “honeymoon” prayer experiences. Going to Mass together as a couple has some similarities to going out with your spouse within a group of friends. The congregation surrounds you, but you are also there specifically with one other person, to pray.
“When we have a rare getaway weekend, it can be tempting to sleep in and skip Mass,” says Dave, father of two. “But we find going to Mass without the kids to be a completely different experience, and we’re always happy we decided to go. We can attend to it better, and really pray—without worrying about the squirming kids. Afterwards, we can go to brunch and talk about what we thought the message was for us.” …continued next week
by Annemarie Scobey from the pages of At Home with Our Faith, Claretian Publications’ print newsletter for parents on nurturing spirituality in the home. Winner of the 2012 Best in Class award from the Associated Church Press, as well as the 2010 and 2011 General Excellence awards from the Catholic Press Association. Here’s a sample issue.
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