Most of us try to hit Mass every Sunday and reconciliation a couple times a year. The grace of baptism and confirmation is always with us, but not always top-of-mind. While some sacraments dance on the periphery of our lives, marriage is our in-your-face sacrament, our 24-hours-a-day sacrament.
Marriage is the only sacrament not conferred by a priest, deacon, or bishop. Rather, the husband and wife confer the sacrament on each other. There’s something both holy and practical about this. After all, 10 years into marriage as you argue in the kitchen about whose turn it is to drive across town to ballet class, there will be no priest in the kitchen to settle the dispute.
Marriages remain strong when couples move past the notion that their life should be a fairy-tale love story and embrace the hard work, commitment, and holiness inherent to marriage.
We’re working at it because it’s sacred. When a husband and a wife believe they were brought together for a purpose, they are able to turn back to that purpose when they find themselves drifting apart. Couples need to consciously decide to take time to talk and learn where the other person is.
“ ‘Make time for each other’ was the main point of my dad’s speech at our rehearsal dinner,” says Emma, mother of three. “And, of course, before kids and carpools and school commitments, that made no sense at all. Who else am I going to spend my time on? But the intervening 10 years have taught us how smart my dad’s advice was.” ...continued next week
—by Annemarie Scobey, from the pages of At Home with Our Faith, Claretian Publications’ print newsletter for parents on nurturing spirituality in the home. Winner of the 2012 Best in Class award from the Associated Church Press, as well as a First Place General Excellence award from the Catholic Press Association for the past three years running. Here’s a sample issue.
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