Grace beyond this moment. Brigid and Bob, married 19 years with four children, believe that part of being open to the grace of God in marriage is understanding that bumpy times will not last forever and good times should not be taken for granted. “In good times, it is good to stop and ask, ‘Why is this good? What are we doing right? Can we replicate and maintain the qualities of this time?’ ” Brigid says. In asking what we are doing right, we avail ourselves of what being open to God’s grace looks like in real life, and we can more easily hold on to what we learn.
In times of trouble, it’s easy to toss up the prayer, “Why me, God?” But being open to grace means asking a version of that question during the good times as well: “That was great—how did we get the grace to pull that off?”
Grace to trust the other. When Maureen, a self-described “super-organized, type-A personality,” married Dave, “a free spirit,” she took over almost all aspects of the couple’s lives, from home organization to checkbook management.
Several children later, overwhelmed with the work of maintaining control over so many things, she turned the finance management over to Dave.
“To my deep delight, Dave revealed himself to be a wise person who could manage many things, and make plans without my being in the lead. As a result of my letting go of all the control, I have gained an enormous sense of relief and peace.”
Maureen adds that this process also deepened her relationship with God, as she recognized that just as she needed to give up some control to her husband, she needed to give up control of some aspects of her life to God.
By Annemarie Scobey, from the pages of At Home with Our Faith, Claretian Publications’ print newsletter for parents on nurturing spirituality in the home. Winner of the Best in Class award in 2013 from the Associated Church Press, as well as a First Place General Excellence award from the Catholic Press Association for the past four years running. Here’s a sample issue.
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