So much of what we fret over can be characterized as “First World” problems. Families in developing nations are concerned about a clean water supply, when the drought will end, whether their children will get an education beyond age 10. Yet here we sit, concerned about whether our child will make the A or B select soccer team, whether they’ll get into the right college, whether our powder room looks dated. Use these three questions to decide if your current worry is worth the time and effort you are giving it.
• Am I praying my way through it? If it’s taking up space in your brain, give it to God in prayer. In your prayer, give up your control, and ask God to lead you or your child to where you need to be. If it’s not big enough to pray about, it’s not big enough to fret about. Move on.
• What does my child think? Sometimes parents superimpose their own worries or hopes on their child. As children are making decisions, ask them what they are thinking and feeling about the choices. Listen with your whole heart without telling them how they should feel.
• Can I really go wrong? When you’re choosing (or when someone’s choosing for you), be aware that often the choice is between very good, excellent, and outstanding. Be aware of perfectionist tendencies, and work toward contentment with what you have.
By Annemarie Scobey, from the pages of At Home with Our Faith, Claretian Publications’ print newsletter for parents on nurturing spirituality in the home. Winner of the Best in Class award in 2014 from the Associated Church Press, as well as a First Place General Excellence award from the Catholic Press Association for four years running. Here’s a sample issue.
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